This past weekend I visited Corpus Christi, TX for a much needed girls trip with my family, filled with lots of love, dancing, endless memories and fellowship. I was raised in a family that is founded on unconditional love, vows to show their support in every way possible and always puts family first and that’s why I cherish my family so much.
“My family is not only my foundation, but my motivation.”
My cousin Constance Staten recently started a Christian non-profit organization dedicated to the spiritual growth and empowerment of women, called SisterlyLove Celebration. She was inspired to create this organization to remind women of their power and purpose, strengthen and celebrate diversity and encourage growth in their journey with God. What’s so beautiful about this organization is that it’s a place for my family to bond, build and create new memories for generations to come.
During our trip we shared unforgettable memories singing our favorite songs on karaoke, danced until our feet hurt, walked the beach and relaxed under the sunset, poured into each other and hosted a panel on the future of dating where we discussed self-love, love vs. infatuation, healing, faith and sisterhood. There were so many gems dropped and meaningful experiences shared that I wanted to share them with you to be a reminder for you a long your journey.
Self-love: Give yourself love, give yourself attention, give yourself time, give yourself power and give yourself to you. The more you believe in yourself and practice who you want to become, God will position you exactly where you need to be. It first starts with you. Reclaim your power and always be aware of your value. Respect yourself and show others how you prefer to be treated with love and compassion. The more you love yourself, the less you seek validation and approval from others. Set boundaries, be clear on your expectations and focus on being a powerful source from within. The better you love yourself, the better others learn to love you. Show them the way.
Sisterhood: Find your tribe of sisters who uplift you, encourage you to stay the course when you feel lost, and offer guidance and support without judgement. Sisterhood is a special and sacred bond that is honest and empowering. Remind them of their magic so that they don’t feel the need to look for those characteristics in a potential spouse. Check in on your sisters, lean into them, let them know how much you love and appreciate them, remind them how proud of them you are, shower them with love and check them when they need it because that’s what sisters are for.
Healing: In order to serve others, you first have to sort through your own mess. Healing comes in waves, lean in your truth, acknowledge your experiences and let go of what no longer serves you. Doing the work is what facilitates healing. In order to mend, we have to show up for ourselves in ways no one else can. Give yourself permission to heal and forgive yourself and others in order to grow. The very moment you allow what happened to you to strengthen you, you win. Choose victory over being a victim. Rise up and conquer from within.
Faith: At the end of the day, all you need is hope and strength. Hope that it will get better and strength to hold on until it does, because it always does. Walking authentically in your light will lead you in the right direction. Trust that your journey is yours & it doesn’t have to mirror anyone else’s path. God is aligning the right people, ideas, places and opportunities in your life. All you need to do is be ready to experience them when they come. Choose faith over fear and God’s favor will put you in positions hustling can’t.
Love vs infatuation: With everything at the touch of our finger tips it’s easy to get infatuated with someone and become obsessed with how they look on the internet. But sis don’t let their looks fool you, dig deeper. Get to know them, their passions, their family, their goals and their relationship with God. That will tell you much more than any photoshopped image on social media. Love is an action not a word. Falling in love is easy, but choosing to stand in it, even through adversity, shifts, and change is the hardwork that isn’t picture perfect. Love requires practice, patience, understanding and partnership. Choose a love that is rooted in God, faith, friendship and commitment. Love is learned and it unconditional.
Much love from my family to yours,